General Relationship Stuff

Human Compassion

Since having left my ex, sending my 23-year-old son out into the world to become his own man, and moving from Az to another state… I have had quite a bit of time to think and reflect on the experiences I had for the 11 years I lived in Arizona. Some things that happened over the last few years, really changed my perspective on people and the world as it is today. I have felt that the world is an ugly, dark place for many years. But at the same time, I have always made sure that I put out as much light as I can. I have done a lot for many people over the years.

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How to fix a fading relationship

This question comes from a grade school friend back home…

I have been married for 24.5 years to a man who no longer seems to care.  My question too you is, how can I make him realize that I am something other than the maid?

I just wrote a pdf “how-to”  guide on getting a fading relationship back on track, that I am thinking I’ll offer to people who subscribe to my site… but it goes with your question so I will pull some of the info out of there for you…

Your question is kinda vague. It doesn’t provide much information about how the emotional dynamics in your relationship are. Like, do you guys still love

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Words scar more than fists

Words scar more than fists. It’s true. I think one of the most important things to remember in any relationship whether it be a spouse, a child, a friend, or simply someone you encounter for a brief period of time, is to treat them in the same respect you like to be treated yourself.

Having been in an abusive relationship, both physically and emotionally, I can assure you the scars that were left by his words caused far more pain than whatever happened to be his weapon of choice on the days he got physical.
The bruises faded, the stitches were removed but the words stayed and lingered.

When I go out into this ugly world

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How Do I love Someone With a Mental Illness

How do I love someone with a mental illnessToday’s question comes from my sister. She asked me last night, “How do I love someone with a mental illness?” Her husband has a diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder and she wants some thoughts on how to support him better. First, I want to say that if you are strong enough to remain in a relationship with a person who suffers from a mental illness, you’ve already taken the highest role of support you can. I know that it is no easy feat

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What is Love?

What is love? – Let’s talk!

So, What is love? Everyone has their own version of what love is. I will admit that in my younger years I found myself in love more than just a couple of times. But it took until I was 32 years old to really come to know what love is, at least from my perspective. Even with my Ex-husband, it was not love. I believed with my whole heart at the time that it was, but learned later I was just in love with what I wanted us to be.

When I was 32 I met my current partner and believe what you will, it was love at first sight. I

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