Heart of Gold

“I’ve been a miner for a heart of gold, and I’m gettin’ old.” Neil Young

It’s been a long time since I have posted. I had a series of events which led to my breakup and subsequent deportation of my 9 year relationship. I became bitter, heartbroken, and decided I was too foolish having not seen the trouble I, we, were in and felt unqualified to post in regard to other people’s love lives. I told someone recently that I found having a heart of gold did not pay off. I have since changed my mind. Having a heart of gold and a smile, the compassion for others and ability to lift people with my spirit will

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Coping With Divorce

Today’s topic is about, “coping with divorce.” A question sent in from a male friend of mine from back East.coping with divorce

I am in the middle of a divorce right now myself. But I left my husband fifteen years ago. But I remember the pain I went through after leaving so I will give my opinion based on how I felt then.

Despite that I was abused and I left him, I still experienced a great deal of pain. I was alone and I was used to being with

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Words scar more than fists

Words scar more than fists. It’s true. I think one of the most important things to remember in any relationship whether it be a spouse, a child, a friend, or simply someone you encounter for a brief period of time, is to treat them in the same respect you like to be treated yourself.

Having been in an abusive relationship, both physically and emotionally, I can assure you the scars that were left by his words caused far more pain than whatever happened to be his weapon of choice on the days he got physical.
The bruises faded, the stitches were removed but the words stayed and lingered.

When I go out into this ugly world

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How Do I love Someone With a Mental Illness

How do I love someone with a mental illnessToday’s question comes from my sister. She asked me last night, “How do I love someone with a mental illness?” Her husband has a diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder and she wants some thoughts on how to support him better. First, I want to say that if you are strong enough to remain in a relationship with a person who suffers from a mental illness, you’ve already taken the highest role of support you can. I have a diagnosis of Bipolar and PTSD.

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What is Love?

What is love? – Let’s talk!

So, What is love? Everyone has their own version of what love is. I will admit that in my younger years I found myself in love more than just a couple of times. But it took until I was 32 years old to really come to know what love is, at least from my perspective. Even with my Ex-husband, it was not love. I believed with my whole heart at the time that it was, but learned later I was just in love with what I wanted us to be.

When I was 32 I met my current partner and believe what you will, it was love at first sight. I

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Facebook and Your Man

Do You Trust Your Man??

So my first topic request is on Facebook and your man and opposite-sex friendships on Facebook. Although I found that one in five divorces use ¬†evidence found on social media platforms, my opinions are a bit different from the majority of what I’ve read. The question that I was asked is, “Is it inappropriate for someone in a relationship to be messaging an opposite-sex friend on Facebook. My short answer, No. My longer answer, it depends on the complete circumstances. I mean… let’s face it. If your man is profile snooping and catfishing, and you have definitive proof, it’s really just a question of how long you want to delay the inevitable.

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